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Hey Friend,

I’m Carly,

Corporate dropout turned Creative Life Coach (EMCC), Positive Psychology Practitioner (MSc) and published researcher., and as of May 2023 I’m also the owner of a Pet Care Business - so I like to wear lots of hats.

I’m here to help people-pleasing perfectionists like you (yes, you) ditch social expectations and thrive. 

You’ll usually find me armed with some sort of journal and creative tools and a deep desire to talk to you about anything and everything. I myself am a recovering people-pleaser and perfectionist and this is always a work in progress I assure you.

I’ve always been fascinated by psychology and the mind (I studied Criminology & Psychology for my BA Hons), I’ve always wondered why some of us act the way we do. Why are some humans able to create a life they truly love and others of us aren’t.

I realised a lot of this comes down to societal expectations and the ‘roles’ we play as individuals in society.

We are raised to believe (some would say conditioned to believe) that in order to ‘fit in’ we must follow certain norms and expectations.

We must conform and keep everyone around us happy. But what usually happens is through keeping others happy, we don’t end up being happy ourselves. 

We’re taught to believe that focusing on our own happiness makes us selfish and self-centred, but that is simply not true we can do both and I’m devoted to showing you how.

 
 
 
 
 

 as cliché as it sounds, life is far too short to spend it doing things that don’t make you happy!

 
 
 
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Let’s rewind a little, we’re going to head back to 2019 - the year I realised I was unhappy and something needed to change. 

I was working a job I liked but didn’t love, I was meeting the needs of other people both in work and life, but not meeting mine.

I was unsatisfied and unfulfilled - I was fully immersed on the treadmill of life. Doing the same thing, day in day out, too scared to say no to the people around me and not able or willing to try new things because I was scared of ‘failing’. Sound familiar?

Now as I said, I liked my job and there were areas of it I enjoyed, but it also caused me unnecessary stress and anxiety. I felt a ridiculous sense of pressure to always be getting things right - which of course didn’t help my people-pleasing or perfectionist character traits.

 
 

After getting stuck into some personal development work, a lot of soul-searching and a few lightbulb moments. I realised I could in fact take back control and forge my own path in life.

An opportunity arose for me during the Covid-19 pandemic to leave my corporate role and build my life coaching business - and after lots of hard questions, journaling and self-doubt I did something wild and took the leap. I’ve been coaching clients and working with wonderful humans since 2020 and you guessed it, I’m happy and I feel fulfilled on the reg. As cliche as it sounds, my life now has meaning and purpose and I’m thriving!

You were not put on this planet to simply exist, say yes to everything (even when you don’t want to) and not do certain things because your perfectionist tendencies hold you back.

You were put here to LIVE, to THRIVE and to do it all on YOUR terms.

Society tells us that we should be hitting certain ‘milestones’ by certain ages and if we’re not then we’re made to feel as though we’re ‘falling behind’, well I call BS! Everyone is on their own timeline, I want to empower you to embrace yours, to feel confident and believe in yourself enough to own it!

 
 

I think it’s an injustice that so many women are living in the shadows of old fashioned social expectations, living by the ‘rules’ of so many ‘shoulds’ instead of living a life designed and created by them.

I ask you this - are you really happy in your life? What would you love to do but are too scared to try? Let me tell you a lil secret - you can do anything you set your mind to and I can help you!

 
 

want to know me a bit better?

I love food - all the food, but Italian or Thai are my favs, my all-time favourite film is The Goonies or The Lost Boys or anything from the 80s.

I’m a big fan of animals, my fav are giraffes and also doggos - I now own We Love Pets Horsham a pet care company that looks after all animals from lizards to llamas and everything in between.

Can you tell I’m a bit indecisive - I can’t have just one favourite thing!

I’m an INFJ, Enneagram 2w3 and a Manifestor in Human Design - if you’re thinking what.the.hell, don’t worry we’ll explore all of this when you work with me.

I love to prance around the kitchen to my fav tunes - these change regularly, and I like anything from Mike Oldfield’s Tubular Bells 2 (2 is way better than 1) to Justin Bieber and Linkin Park.

I’m currently located in Sussex in the South East of England but dream to live the digital nomad life one day in the not too distant future.

I love a cheesy quote and will throw them into many of our conversations because although they’re cheesy so many are so accurate.

I have an irrational fear of falling off a curb into oncoming traffic and being run over by a car and also the microwave exploding in my face, I know, I know…

I love any form of creativity - watercolours, cross-stitch, colouring-in, doodling you name it I’ll give it a try. I even have a book that teaches me how to cross-stitch family portraits…

 
 
 

 my qualifications

📃 European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC) accreditation- Practitioner Level

🖋 MSc in Applied Positive Psychology & Coaching Psychology - read my research on the power of using journaling alongside coaching here

🖋 Mental Health First Aider

🖋 Certified Mindfulness & Meditation Teacher

🖋 The Academy of Modern Applied Psychology Life Coaching Certificate

🖋 Diploma in Journal Therapy

🖋 Masters & BA Hons Degree in Criminology & Applied Psychology

 
 
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What my clients are saying

 
Testimonials Blog '22

After only 4 sessions with Carly, I feel more self-aware and empowered than I have done my whole life. Her compassionate and yet challenging approach makes me look forward to every session and I honestly feel it has been transformational. Everybody needs Carly in their life!

- Zoe, Assistant Psychologist

This experience was life changing for me! I have years of therapy behind me but I've always wanted to try coaching. Combining the coaching with the journaling was a whole different level, a whole new level of magic.

I rediscovered myself, I couldn't believe how much I changed in the course of a month, it was a massive step for me. I learned so much about myself, about who I am becoming, about what I truly want - bringing it to the surface. I rediscovered little pleasures that make me happy and were part of me before. It was like seeing an old friend and hearing 'I never left you, I was always there'. Thank you Carly for helping me to start this new journey.

- Irene

I will be forever grateful for my 1:1 coaching journey with Carly. The experience allowed me to gain a fresh perspective, re-align with my personal values and create a new and exciting future vision for myself. The journal prompts were an invitation to create my own self-empowering road map to realising my goals and to recognise any self-limiting behaviours that may appear along the way. Carly held a space that allowed me to share openly & authentically and her presence within every session could be felt. The overall experience has equipped me with new ways to navigate my life, a new sense of self-confidence and has been a wonderful reminder to celebrate my achievements & my creativity every step of the way.

- Charlotte

If you have any doubts about life coaching DON’T! It was one of the best things I have ever done & Carly was nothing short of amazing. Going into my first session, I was emotional, I cried (a lot), I felt useless, I was at an all-time low. Carly listened and not in that throwaway “how are you” listen, she really HEARD me! She prompted me, she helped me remember who I was, what I wanted in life and what I loved, she questioned me, she was HONEST, she was the encouragement I didn’t know I needed. She helped me back to the mindset I needed to have to achieve my goals. It was freeing, I could be open without any judgement. Going into of my ‘last’ session with Carly, I was giddy as I had somehow managed to reach the goals I had spoken about in my first session and I was so excited to tell Carly that with her guidance I f**king did it!!

She’s the best, our time together was invaluable and I hope to work with Carly again!

- Emma, Personal Assistant

I came to Carly at the height of the pandemic. I was doing a lot of soul searching at that time and had just decided to take my healing journey to the next level. I reached out to Carly for a safe space, and the support to work through unresolved past trauma. If it wasn't for our work together, I don't know if I would have ever been able to reach the level of healing I'm at right now. It feels amazing, and I am forever grateful!

- Dominique, Physical Therapist & Coach

My first call with Carly was so relaxed (honestly it was like speaking to a friend) and to have someone understand what I was going through (and actually listen to you). I have built more confidence and learnt how to challenge my negative thoughts. She has provided me with great tips on how to move forward in my life and given me different resources that I can return to. Journaling has been a great tool, Carly is able to give me personalised prompts to help guide me through things I am currently experiencing and to acknowledge some emotions or thoughts I could be suppressing. She has provided me with good incite into moving at your own pace and understanding that life is not a race! Creativity has also been a big part for me, Carly has educated me to be more creative in different ways and shown me ways this can help free my mind.

It has been an eye opening experience for me, as Carly has really encouraged me and brought out the self belief within myself. It has been a lovely experience working with her, I am so grateful I discovered her, met her and hope to keep this up in the future. A huge THANK YOU to Carly!

- Chandni, Teaching Assistant

I went through a coaching journey with Carly and she held a really safe space for me to open up. She was easy to talk to, I always felt heard and never felt judged. Carly allowed me space to reflect on my present situation, and had a solution-focused approach, always looking to move me forward. With Carly’s support and guidance, I was able to start taking steps towards my intention of becoming more creative and mindful.

- Nell, Wellbeing Coach

My time working with Carly has been life-changing. I started my first session feeling so small and in a relatively short amount of time, I went through a change…major GROWTH. By using different prompts to write in my journal, we were able to explore different aspects of my life in a happy, healthy way. Carly gave me the space to explore my needs. She listened to what I needed and guided me into a place of not only feeling but knowing that I am f**king badass! As the weeks went on, I stopped thinking I was showing up for Carly and instead knew that each week I was showing up for myself because that is what I deserve.

Thank you Carly 🤍

- Chloé, Teacher

My coaching journey with Carly has been incredibly eye-opening & has provided me with the tools and confidence to believe in my future. The combination of journal prompts and talking sessions allowed me to open up in a way that felt safe & comfortable. Carly always left room for me to explore & guide the sessions, making me feel comfortable to open up in a way I haven’t before. It surprised me every week what came up in our discussions & Carly always knew exactly what questions would allow me to unlock the solutions myself. I am so grateful to Carly for helping me start to overcome the overwhelm I was feeling & delve into who I want to become going forward.

- Gracie, Librarian

Working with Carly came at a perfect time for me. I had been in a 7-month lock-down practically re-creating myself and had so many loose ends that I didn’t know what or how to deal with. Working with Carly helped me to get focused on what mattered most to me, reflect on where I was coming from, and gain clarity on where I was going. She asked me insightful questions during our calls that helped me to see things about me and my situation that I could not see before. The journal prompts were also very helpful – even if some were challenging! Carly helped me to empower myself to move forward. I am still reaping the benefit of our work together even after our time has ended (or paused - however you want to view it). I highly recommend Carly to anyone new at receiving coaching or to those like me who are seasoned coaching and therapy users/receivers

- Taylor

Working with Carly gave me clarity and insight. She made me feel heard, seen and welcome. Carly gave me tangible tips on how to move through my blocks and challenges, and they really worked. I am so grateful for the time I have had with Carly. She is a great coach

- Jessica, Entrepreneur

My 1:1 with Carly was very valuable and gave me a very clear idea of where I was feeling stuck. I felt comfortable with being open to her and she helped to guide me through my mental barriers by asking appropriate questions. The journal prompts that she curated have given me a great deal to think about and it is a great tool to self-navigate to get past those mental barriers. I would definitely recommend working with Carly!

- Vedangi, Adventurer